Friendship is Mutual Love and Mutual Matter
by Tami Warren
Friendship is mutual love and mutual matter
Being able to have a fallout or a fight, without fear of revenge, that your privacy will suddenly take flight
Friendship is peace
Friendship is playful
It is not pretty poison, pretentious, or all about place and staying in one’s predetermined station
Don’t accept those who offer isolation instead of invitation
Or those who use your confidences as their petty conversation
You deserve to be treasured, not tolerated
You are not a consolation prize, here only for them to criticize or ostracize
Friendship is choice
Friendship is connection
Friendship is comfort
With true fact based conversation
A friend is more than an acquaintance or association
A friend is more than a like or follow back
A friend is love and I got your back
Friendship is equality in spirit, not one taking priority in a two tiered fever dream, where what they need, is the only need that matters
Who you spend your time with on this planet reflects who is important to you, who truly matters
You don’t get time back, so don’t waste it on empty flattery, fake gestures, or fomented chatter
Spend your time with those who see you as an equal, not an option
Friendship currency is spiritually lifting, much more than dollars or cents
Friendship currency is an uninterrupted flow, a stream of acceptance where you are always valued
I have painfully learned, not to waste my light on those who won’t make space, for my rich brown face
On those who say one thing and do another
On those who shield themselves in the lyric of religion, pretending to be its songlike style
When in reality, they are not a sonnet or even an ode, they are masquerading as melodious
They are faux and foe, they are odious
I have learned not to accept being second tier, being someone they take from whenever they need
Greed not only appears in money, greed appears in, deed
I’ve learned not to give, and give, and give, when there is no give in return to receive
Friendship is constructed of bridges and two way streets – bright hills and valleys
Friendship is not lonely lanes of shadows or dark alleys
Choosing friendship means choosing truth, choosing light
Not being someone’s option or someone’s maybe – you are always on their guest list, not the waitlist, whilst they act shadey
I have learned to know my worth, even if someone else does not
It’s never too late to make new friends
But don’t wait too long, to forgo faux friends
Because friendship is mutual love and mutual matter
Sharing the dark times and the light, with your chosen sister, brother, or other, on this shared spiritual flight.